Unity at the expense of equality:

"'One' may mean no more than this: one of the partners has taken control of the marriage, and that one will dominates the other. The second will has become silent or submissive or extinct. But this isn't oneness; this is one alone. Indeed, there is no disharmony in such a marriage: no arguing, no clashes, no division of opinions, just an evident and absolute order. But neither is there harmony of any kind. The drum has overwhelmed the flute. Then, though one person may fluorish and grow, two do not, for the second is always shaped by the character and personhood of the first. And therefore the marriage as a marriage does not develop either. The marriage has become the servant of one of the partners."